Tribe of Mentors. When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?

“Tribe of Mentors” is a solid book filled with top performers wisdom. While reading the book, I marked the answers that turned out to be most useful at the time of reading. Since “Tribe of Mentors” is a big book, I list in this part answers for the specific question.

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I have a friend at the gym who knew Jack LaLanne (Google him if the name is unfamiliar). Jack used to say it’s okay to take a day off from working out. But on that day, you’re not allowed to eat. That’s the short way of saying you’re not really allowed to get unfocused. Take a vacation. Gather yourself. But know that the only reason you’re here on this planet is to follow your star and do what the Muse tells you. It’s amazing how a good day’s work will get you right back to feeling like yourself.

In a tough situation, I try to remind myself that stress can make me stronger — if I believe it can. I breathe deeply and visualize, focusing that feeling of stress and being overwhelmed into positive, loving action. I was inspired to do this after reading some research by Kelly McGonigal of Stanford.

I whisper to myself, “Scott, do your fucking job.” With all the drama around us and inside of us, it is too easy to get distracted or overthink a situation. It is too easy to rationalize why you’re too busy, or why you should wait to do something that just needs to get done. I opt for the no-bullshit approach. When I need to do something mundane, or when I need to do something especially difficult like deliver bad news or fire an employee, I just tell myself to stop screwing around and “do your fucking job.” I find that self-directive hard to argue with.

One of the questions I’m asked a lot is “What’s the single thing that most
prevents success?” And to me, the answer is always focus [or lack of focus]. I
believe focus is the key to everything. So, figuring out how to find focus or
get back to my focus is something I ponder a lot. My gym is how I get
refocused. When I start a workout, I can tell if my focus is off, and by the end
of my workout I see a change. The physical activity clears my mind and
allows me to draw back into focusing on what I need to do next to get to
where I want to go. It changes everything for me — my outlook on the day, my
mental stability, and how I set myself up for the rest of the things I’ll do that

I immediately begin by recalling all the things I am grateful for in my life. I start with each of my three sons, my brother, sister, and on to my mother and father. I then allow my thoughts of gratitude to go wherever they go, from the smallest things to the largest. Literally within minutes, the perspective I have about what’s happening in this stressful moment takes a dramatic shift. I become calmer, less panicked, and more measured in my feelings and thinking. I then pull forward the thought of my best self and who I most want to be in the storms of life. Connecting with my deepest values and purpose in life strengthens my resolve to respond to the crisis according to my highest ethical and moral character.

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